Strategies

Teach the use and concept of self-talk to assist children in reducing their anger; e.g., “I have a right to be mad, but I’m not going to lose it.” Also, if they have kept their cool, teach them to praise their own success; e.g., “I really handled that well.”

• Encourage an angry child who is old enough to write to put his/her angry feelings in writing.
• Look for situations in which you can problem solve together. Give the child responsibility he/she can handle easily and give praise for success.
• Help children develop emotional literacy so they can learn words to express angry feelings. Script language for them.
• Be a positive role model-try not to lose your temper.
• Communicate your observations in a neutral, non-confrontational manner; e.g., “I notice that you don’t follow instructions when given” or “I notice that you have been arguing.”
• Provide opportunities for a variety of expressive outlets; e.g., story-writing, painting, drama, clay, or using a punching bag in a safe place.
• Establish clear expectations, rules and boundaries for the whole team.
• Establish clear consequences and rewards.
• Try to develop a mentoring relationship between the athletes
• Have an athlete who is angry run around the track/outside
• Provide a safe place for them to go when they are angry-a place to calm down